- July 13, 2019 at 1:14 pm #45775JohnKeymaster
This forum topic is for any discussion about The Future Coach Principle 1 – THE RELATIONSHIP COACHJuly 18, 2019 at 8:51 pm #45851Steve DavisParticipant
Testing to see how the posts will display within the forumJuly 28, 2019 at 8:23 am #45868Tom BatesModerator
Has anyone had a high task focused but low relational coach athlete relationship but still got the best from their players? Much the same as task vs social cohesion…April 1, 2020 at 6:47 pm #140209Kat NicholsParticipant
Hey Everyone! This is probably one of my favorite topics. When I started my coaching journey 15 years a go, I was way more of a task driven coach and did not really care much for the relationships with players. As long as they showed up to training and worked I was happy. But during those first few years looking back I noticed that my players worked in hopes of getting a well done or pat on the back. They worked more out of fear of getting in trouble than they did for the love of the game and because they were working toward something. It took me a few years and I’m still learning every day. But, I make it a point to build relationships with my players and when they feel like you believe in them as more than just soccer players but you care for them as people, the gates are wide open for what they are willing to do for you and for the team. My favorite way of making this happen is my walk and talks, if players arrive early to training while I’m still setting up, I call one of them over and we talk about life, soccer, whatever maybe bothering them, all while I finish setting up training. Just those few minutes over the course of a season or two really add up and now the players get the feeling that I’m there for them as a person just as much as I am as a player.April 1, 2020 at 8:44 pm #140293Tom BatesModerator
Hi everyone, thanks Kat! Fantastic insight here. Your story about the walk and talks reminds me of a friend of mine asking me how children spell love? …T I M E. I was speaking to an Olympic coach 4 weeks ago at a conference and she gave me a phrase I’ll remember for a long time to come: “every problem exists only in the absence of a good conversation”. I love your ideas on connection too, players searching for a ‘well done’. Really excited to explore more ideas with you all here on creating effective relationships! What’s worked, what hasn’t…what we learned…Thanks for getting the ball rolling Kat!
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